Meet Rebecca: Somatic Sexologist, Relationship Counsellor & Lover of Connection

Growing Up with Openness Around Sex

I’m the child of teenage parents. In my home, there was no shame around sex or masturbation. It wasn’t something that was “in our faces,” but my brother and I grew up with one clear message: “Do it with someone you love.” 

And so I did.

Until I was 22, I only had sex within two loving, long-term relationships. Those experiences – and the emotional and physical safety I felt within them – allowed me to explore my sexuality with trust and curiosity, and gave me a safe, beautiful starting point for plenty of what I like to call sexploration.

Discovering Tantra & A Lifelong Journey

At 22, I began having experiences during sex that I didn’t fully understand. That curiosity led me to explore and study tantra, opening the door to a journey that has now spanned three decades.

I’ve spent my life learning about sex, intimacy, the body, and the ways our minds and nervous systems shape our relationships.

How My Lived Experience Shapes My Work As a Somatic Sexologist

My approach is rooted not only in my professional training, but in my lived experience. 

I know the deep impact of sexual abuse, having survived it both as a child and as an adult. 

I have been married and divorced twice in 12 years, and I understand the raw pain of a relationship breakdown – the ending, the grief, the slow healing, and the courage it takes to learn to, and lean into, trusting and opening your heart again.

I’ve healed from Complex PTSD (or CPTSD), recognised and understood the impact it had on my relationships, and learned to retrain my nervous system, find safety in my body, and communicate my feelings and needs with clarity.

My Love for Connection Runs Deep

I’m warm, deep, loving – and a bit cheeky (sometimes a lot cheeky 😉). My humour is dry and, at times, a little hard to pick up (my Dad taught me well!), and I carry that playfulness into my life and relationships.

I’m a lover of intimacy in all forms:

• Deep, soul-filling conversations

• Physical touch and presence

• Spiritual exploration

• Sensory play

• Sex that lasts for hours

I am also monogamous and bisexual – and I believe one does not cancel out the other.

At the end of the day, I believe there are many kinds of love, and that love itself is ultimately what matters most.

The Science Behind Somatic Therapy

I’m a neuroplasticity geek at heart. I absolutely love the science that’s consistently emerging and that supports somatic therapy – and the ways our brains and bodies can change, heal, and reconnect to pleasure.

I’ve been meditating (on and off; although, mostly, on) since I was 18 years old. I’ve tried meditating in many different ways, because I believe there are countless paths to love and presence.

Beyond the Therapy Room

I loooooove being in nature and dancing in the kitchen. Movement, good food, joy, and connection to the earth fill my cup.

Today, my work as a Somatic Sexologist is the culmination of my life experiences, my ongoing professional training, and the years spent holding space for people to explore themselves, their relationships, and their pleasure without shame.

If you’re curious about working together, I see clients in Newcastle at my light-filled practice and also online. Whether you’re navigating relationship challenges, sexual difficulties, or simply seeking deeper connection, I’d love to walk alongside you – book online right here, or get in touch to find out more.