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What’s Your Love Language?


What makes you feel loved and have you shared it with your partner?


Love Languages are a very easy way to fill up the relationship love tank. It truly is as simple as learning what makes your partner smile and feel loved, and simply giving it to them. Again and again and again.

 

The easiest way to work out what your own favourite love language is to identify the way in which you show love.

 

What lights your heart up? Is it carving out special time with your beloved, making them a cup of tea, bringing them home chocolate, popping a little love note in their bag or enjoying a melting hug? Each of these are different ways to love each other.

 

Gary Chapman originally published his book on Love Languages back in 1992. Since then, relationship dynamics and therapy have come a long way. I believe the original five can now be easily expanded into eight to include Presence, Accountability and Reliability.



The original

Love Languages are:


  1.  Acts of Service

 – doing something for your partner because you know it makes them happy. These things take time.


  1. Words of Affirmation

    – telling or writing what you love, appreciate or value in them.


  1. Physical Touch

    – this includes any type of touch from a hug, holding hands, cuddling on the couch, a relaxing foot rub to sex.


  1. Quality Time

    – spending time together on date nights, weekends away or a walk along the beach. An experience you can enjoy together.


  1. Gifts

– showering them with gifts such as a flower from the garden, a box of chocolates, jewellery or a new pair of shoes.



And my additional

Love Languages are:


  1. Presence

– making yourself fully available mentally, physically and emotionally for your lover to connect, listen or play with. It’s similar to Quality Time, however, this can occur throughout the day not only during special blocks of time.


  1. Accountability 

– taking responsibility and being honest and respectful in your words and actions.


  1. Reliability 

– being consistent in your availability and having your actions matching your words builds your partners trust in you.


Personally, I find these three super sexy.

 

Most people show their partner love through their own love language, not their partners. This can lead to each partner feeling unloved and frustrated. If your attempts aren’t leaving your partner feeling loved up then it’s probably time to get curious about what their love language, not yours.

 

Isn’t feeling loved and loving your partner up a vital key to a satisfying relationship? If loving this way feels awkward, great, embrace that until it becomes familiar. Finding out your partners love language will save you time whilst giving you an easy-to-read map on how to love them up!



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